Monday, July 5, 2010

A Better Place

I had not mentioned this to you but it’s going into the third week now since my Father’s passing.

I was grateful and happy that my Aunt Velma was the one to call me from Atlanta to give me the news. I took it like a trooper, turned things around and began asking her how she was doing and told her to call me if she needed to talk. Shedding of tears has been less than sparse on my end. I am still numb, still in shock.

One of my best friends in Detroit of 33 years became very upset with me because he did not think I was grieving. Is there a proper way to grieve? I don’t think so, it has to be an individual experience wouldn’t you say? In any event, my friend is disturbed by my calmness and actually found grieving counselors in Georgia and had them call me. I appreciate his concern.

I’d recently received a beautiful strand of pearls and was saving them for a special occasion. I imagined that occasion to be a dinner or theater date. I don’t mind that my first wearing of the pearls was to see my dad off.

I won’t say much more in this post except that I may be ready now to take some real time off of work and I may not post for a while.

You understand I’m sure.

29 comments:

Aislynn said...

I'm so sorry to hear about your Father. My thoughts are with you and your family.

caknitter said...

My deepest sympathies.
You're right about everyone grieving their own way. I hope you enjoy your time off. :-)

Carlene said...

Aw, I'm so sorry. Don't let anyone tell you you're grieving the wrong way, that's just crazy. It's a very individual experience.

Camille said...

I am praying for you and your family and I'm sure you are grieving. Take your time.

Joansie said...

Sorry for your loss. We all have our own way of grieving and your friend should not have imposed her views onto you. Take care and do come back soon to blogland!

Melodye said...

I'm so sorry to hear of your fathers' passing. Grieving is a very personal thing so we each go through it differently. Take all the time you need and be gentle with yourself. ((Hugs))

The Knitwit Knitter said...

So sorry to hear about your father's passing! Everyone grieves in their own way. I didnt cry during my dad's funeral last year and people thought that was weird. Heck, everyone reacts differently to every situation! Grieve your way and remember there are tons of friends & family around if you need them.

Sara said...

I'm so sorry. Everyone grieves differently.

Karine said...

My sympathies for your father's passing.

kshotz said...

Sorry to hear of your loss. Of course grief is a very individual thing, so follow your instinct on what you need and where you are.
Thoughts surround you!

Two Cables and a Frapp said...

Thank you all so much for the kind words and support. I really appreciate it.

Madam said...

All prayers for the family. You are a strong backbone. Take care, take your time.

Amybel said...

So sorry to hear of your loss. I hope that you use your time to to do whatever it is that work best for you.

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cici said...

I can understand what you are going through, and I think you are healing in your own way and time. It took me awhile to get through my dad's passing.
We all need a break now and again. Just keep us posted. You will be in my thoughts♥

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The A.D.D. Knitter said...

Thank you for sharing your reminiscences of your dad and pointing me to your blog! Everyone grieves is her own way, we do what feels right. xoxo Heather

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Sheila said...

I am so sorry for your loss and will be praying for you and your family. Stay strong and will be here when you return.

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Don said...

Sorry to hear about your loss......still numb, still shock, and awaiting the moment where you are able to consciously let go, I imagine.

Take your time.

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Camille said...

We will be here when you return. Take care of yourself.

Beate said...

just popping by to see how you are-
Hopefully a good summer-
Best